Mom didn't want to make the same sleep mistakes with her second child:
Four month old, very quick progress:
Nine month old's schedule was not meeting his needs:
Ten month old up all night long:
4.5 month old second child who did not nap and could not self-soothe:
Family felt like they had tried it all:
Finishing up our week talking about 2 month old's with another popular question: what should sleep look like at this age?
Given that we are still in the newborn stage, sleep is still likely erratic and unpredictable and this is normal.
At 2 months of age we are shooting for 16-17 hours of sleep/day, broken up into 4+ naps and 11 hours of sleep at night [naps hopefully totaling 5-6 hours/day].
Nap duration can range from 20 minutes to 3 hours. The length of your baby’s naps will often determine in some ways how long he can subsequently stay awake. A baby who takes a nice long nap may tolerate staying awake for 75-90 minutes, where the same baby who took a short 20 minute snooze may only stay awake for 35 minutes. Irregularity is normal! It doesn’t mean you are doing anything wrong! Remember that capacity to stay awake does not equal recommended time to stay awake. You may need to initiate sleep for your baby!
At 2 months of age, I would be working to end baby's last nap no later than 6:30pm with bedtime occurring about 1-2 hours after this.
Sample Schedule at 2 months of age:
7:00am – awake for the day, feed baby upon waking
7:50am – head to baby’s room to initiate nap routine
8:00am – baby down in crib
8:10am-11:10am – nap#1, feed baby upon waking [we are still capping naps at 3 hours at this age]
12:00pm – head to baby’s room to initiate nap routine
12:10pm – baby down in crib
12:20pm-1:50pm – nap#2, feed baby upon waking
2:50pm – head to baby’s room to initiate nap routine
3:00pm – baby down in crib
3:10pm-3:55pm – nap#3, feed baby upon waking
5:30pm-6:15pm – nap in carrier, feed baby upon waking
7:00pm – bedtime routine begins with ½ feed, other ½ after bath
7:30pm – baby down in crib
7:40pm – baby asleep for the night
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I received some great questions on my Story from parents of 2 month old's. One of the most popular questions was about why baby seems to wake up after only 30 minutes of sleep or has trouble staying asleep without being held.
Here are the biggest reasons why your newborn baby may wake prematurely from a sleep time:
1️⃣Hunger - trying to encourage full feeds at each feed time is important, offering both breasts at each feed [good burp in between!] with a bottle-fed baby receiving ~6 feeds between morning and bedtime [2.5-3 oz. of milk per pound of baby's body weight each day, divided by 6].
2️⃣Trapped wind - getting a good burp after each feed is very important for babies at this age [breast-fed babies naturally take in less air, but it's still important to try to work out a burp after each feed!]
3️⃣Overstimulation - in anticipation of a sleep time, start to wind down about 15 minutes before you initiate the sleep routine. No loud noises or exciting games. Have only one person handle baby during this time as well, as handling from one person to another can make a fretful baby more anxious.
4️⃣Overtiredness - making sure baby is not awake too long in between sleep times is also very important. At 2 months of age, babies should still only be awake for 60-80 minutes MAXIMUM, meaning you need to start winding baby down around 50-70 minutes of awake time, watching sleepy cues and starting earlier if needed.
5️⃣Undertirdness - did baby take a short nap and then wake up totally happy? He may actually need more awake time before naps to build up adequate sleep pressure.
6️⃣Startling - we still want to be swaddling baby for sleep [naps AND nighttime!] at this age!
7️⃣Environment - is baby's room dark enough? Are they being exposed to enough light during awake times? Are there too many stimulating things in baby's sleep space (mobile, toys, etc.) Is there noise outside baby’s room waking him?
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We're talking 2 month old's this week! One of the big changes that occurs this month can be tied to the 2nd Wonder Week - The World of Patterns.
Babies at this age are now experiencing the world in a whole new way. They start to recognize simple patterns [not just visually, but things like 'I have 2 hands!' or 'I can move my leg like this!'] Baby starts to be able to focus on things for longer periods of time, and becomes more curious about the world around her.
How does this affect sleep? This increasing alertness makes it all the more important that baby's environment is conducive to sleep. If her sleeping area is too bright, she may have trouble shutting off her brain. If it's too loud and chaotic, she may have a hard time powering down for sleep. Ideally, baby's bedroom should be pitch black now that days and nights are sorted out [for both naps and nighttime!], and playing white noise can help reduce stress and help baby sleep better. If your baby is not yet sleeping in their crib/bassinet and you're using a swing/rock'n'play/etc., try moving this to baby's bedroom if you're starting to see short naps/trouble settling [bonus that it can help familiarize baby with this space if in the future we want baby sleeping here!]
Do you follow the Wonder Weeks? Have you found the 'leaps' affected your child's sleep? Do you have a question about your 2 month old's sleep? Ask below!
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Let's talk about 🦷 teething🦷for a minute, as little Miss W has gone from 4 teeth to 7 teeth in a matter of 3 days 🙈
Teething gets a really bad rep for creating a host of sleep issues and it can - especially for a child that already struggles to connect sleep cycles.
Teething won't CAUSE your baby to wake through the night but for a baby that's already wakeful, it can make re-settling very difficult. It can also make the initiation of sleep more challenging as well if baby is experiencing discomfort.
There are 2 different types of teething - chronic teething [which is basically happening all the time as the teeth are slowly moving their way up through the gums] and acute teething. Teething is at its worst [acute teething] when you can see those little white bumps just before they pass through the sensitive nerve endings near the skin surface. Once the tooth is through, the discomfort is mostly gone. This should take no longer than 3 days to occur so if your sleep is out of whack for weeks - teething isn't likely to blame.
Babies that are already independent and well-rested will handle teething MUCH better than a child who is overtired [life is just harder when we are overtired!] and who may already wake a lot at night [fist bump 🤜 to sleep training!] Obviously every baby has a different pain threshold but there is no harm in a dose of pain reliever 30 minutes before bed if your baby has been very fussy and you suspect teething [and re-dosing 4-6 hours later as needed if baby struggles through the night - perhaps holding baby for 30 minutes after you administer until the medicine takes effect]. I prefer Motrin over Tylenol/Advil as it tends to last longer [speak to your doctor if you have any questions about offering medicine to your baby!]
What do you guys think? Is teething all that bad? How did your baby handle teething?
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Hopping right back to the big kids to talk about the 1st self-calming strategy you can teach your child if they tend to have bedtime/nighttime anxiety. Practice this with your child during the day and offer a brief reminder that they can do it on their own at night. Here is the 1st of 4 self-calming options:
⭐️Belly Breathing. Often when a person is upset, one of the things they may not notice is that breathing becomes difficult. To teach belly breathing:
*Have your child lay flat on the floor, bed, or couch. Lay beside them.
*Tell them to breathe in through their nose slowly.
*Focus on the stomach, not the chest. Have them rest one hand on their stomach and the other on their chest, only their tummy should move.
*Tell them to pretend they have a 🎈balloon🎈in their stomach [what color is the balloon?] Then inflate the balloon.
*Their stomach should become big but not so big the balloon pops!
*Tell them to blow out through their mouth slowly [not too fast or the balloon will fly all over inside your belly!’]
*Imagine exhaling all the air from the balloon.
*Their stomach should flatten. Repeat five times.
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I hope everyone survived DST!
I wanted to jump back in to talking about my 1 month old babies for a moment as I had a good question come up on my stories [if you have a question about 1 month old's, please feel free to ask below!]
"My 1 month old only wants to fall asleep nursing, what can I do about this?"
A 'wake-eat-play-sleep' routine is a great habit to get into, mainly to avoid a feeding-to-sleep association, which is one of the stronger associations. If you've already got yourself into the habit, here are some steps to take to undo this habit:
1) Always offer a feed upon wake-up from sleep. Even if your baby doesn't eat much because he's just eaten before the nap, you are getting into the habit of it. If you have to feed him again before the nap, go ahead. But always offer upon waking.
2) Establish a nap routine. This should be short and sweet (white noise, diaper change, swaddle, sing). Again, even if you feed to sleep at the end, you're getting into the habit.
3) Stop the pre-sleep feed before baby falls fully asleep. Even if this means you need to rock baby to sleep afterwards, we are removing the association. Press baby's mouth closed gently after you remove the nipple, to avoid baby just trying to suckle again. If you're feeling really brave, check out my previous post where I outline my 'soothing down' method of putting baby down drowsy but awake after you remove the nipple.
4) Every day, move feeding a little bit further away from sleep times - even just in 10 minute increments. So if you know baby needs to go down for a nap around 10:00am and you'd usually start feeding to sleep at that point, feed baby at 9:50am instead and either help baby to sleep in some other way [rocking to sleep is a much weaker association and easier to break dow the road!] or use my 'soothing down' method. As you move the feed further from the sleep As you move the feed further from the sleep time, it will move closer to the feed you will still be doing after the nap, so baby will eat less and less until eventually we are just feeding baby upon wake-up from sleep! Hurray! #breastfeeding #bottlefeeding #baby #weaning #momof3
The first step with helping a child who seems to have anxiety around sleep times is making sure that this anxiety is in fact due to a real perceived fear OR is your child using this 'anxiety' as a stall tactic. It's important to make this distinction because if we start to give this 'fear' too much power and attention, what was once just a way of stalling bedtime now becomes something the child actually thinks they should be afraid of. Some ways you can help decipher whether this is a true fear or not include:
✖️This fear/anxiety is a new pattern that has recently developed and not something your child has always done.
✖️Your child has a change in emotions during the daytime [more tantrums, crying, seems withdrawn].
✖️Your child has nightmares.
✖️Your child complains of headaches or stomachaches through the day.
✖️Your child talks about these fears through the day as well, not just once bedtime is initiated.
✖️Your child is extremely dramatic when talking about their fears [so instead of just saying 'I'm afraid of the dark' your child might say 'I need all of the lights on so that the bad guy won't kill me'].
✖️You can tie this fear to something your child did see/hear/watch/experience.
If your child is exhibiting some of these above signs, it could be real bedtime/nighttime anxiety and teaching some self-calming strategies can be very beneficial.
#sleep #toddler #nightmares #sleephelp #mom #kids #anxiety