Mom didn't want to make the same sleep mistakes with her second child:
Four month old, very quick progress:
Nine month old's schedule was not meeting his needs:
Ten month old up all night long:
4.5 month old second child who did not nap and could not self-soothe:
Family felt like they had tried it all:
The Dream Pee 🚽
Yes that's right, Dream PEE not Dream Feed. We're talking toddlers here!
What is a 'Dream Pee'?
It is similar to a #dreamfeed that you might have done with your baby, but instead of feeding them before you head to bed, we are taking them pee before you head to bed. Why is this helpful?
1️⃣To avoid your child wetting their bed 🛌 in the middle of the night 🌙
2️⃣To avoid you needing to get up in the middle of the night to take your child to the bathroom [thus resulting in less sleep for you AND your child]
3️⃣To avoid them waking up at 5:00am to go pee and unable to fall back asleep afterwards 😑
Just like a Dream Feed doesn't work for all babies, a Dream Pee does not work for all #toddlers
If your child is daytime #pottytrained we don't *need* to focus on nighttime training at the same time. In fact, I recommend waiting until your child can stay dry all night before tackling this. But if your child doesn't want to pee in their pull-up and wakes up at night to use the bathroom, refuses to wear pull-ups at night, or your child is over the age of 4 and still not staying dry all night, this could be something for you to try.
Before you go to bed [ideally between 10-11pm], simply lift your child out of bed, plop them on the toilet [using as minimal light 💡 as you can], encourage them to go [most kids won't even open their eyes!], then bring them back to bed. Try it for about a week before deciding if it's working or not. If your child gets super upset every time you wake them for the DP, it's not worth it 🤷♀️
✏️The DP worked well for my oldest but not for my son. I was doing a DP twice/night and he STILL would wet the bed in between, so I slapped a pull-up back on him, waited a bit longer, and he started to stay dry all on his own around age 4.
Here we go again - GIVEAWAY TIME!!! 🙌 🎉
I'm giving away another 💵 $100.00 💵 credit for one of my FAVORITE sleep tools - Blackout EZ Window Covers. I'm not joking when I say these things are amazing and the BEST way to get your kids' rooms super dark [while also keeping out heat, cold, and outside noise!]
Swipe to see my before/afters in Willa's room! 😲
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Good luck everyone! And happy end of summer! ☀️
4 month sleep regression - what do we do?
1) Make sure baby is not overtired. If you're hitting this regression at the 3.5-4 mo mark then baby should only be awake 1.5-1.75 hrs in between sleep times. We should still be getting 3-4 naps per day, totaling about 15.5 hours of total sleep. If your baby is taking catnaps [which can be normal at this age] then you need to compensate with an early bedtime, which brings me to my next point...
2) Make sure we've moved bedtime earlier. At this age we begin to see sleep patterns mature and nightsleep consolidate. This means that your baby who was previously sleeping in until 8am may begin to shift his natural wake-up time earlier, to around 6-7am. This then means that we need to begin shifting the bedtime earlier as well to account for this. It is a common misconception that putting baby to bed later will help them to sleep in - it is the exact opposite that is true. Putting your baby to bed later in hopes that they will start to sleep in will only backfire and lead to an overtired baby who will in turn wake up even earlier. This early to bed, early to rise pattern is here to stay and trying to fight it is going against baby's natural sleep rhythms. By 4 mos, the last nap of the day should be ending by 5pm, with bedtime occurring 1.75-2 hrs later.
3) Work on baby going down awake at bedtime. If your baby is now 16+ weeks of age, it's time to sleep train! Sleep training before this regression can help to avoid a regression at all [or minimize the effects]. You can sleep train during this regression as well, as this is often the solution to get sleep back on track! If your baby is not yet old enough or you aren't ready to sleep train, at least make sure that we are teaching baby that the crib is a reasonable place to sleep. If your baby never even has the chance to fall asleep there, then there’s no reason she should accept the crib. In little babies it’s all about offering the chance; you don’t have to do it every sleep time, but it is important to think about this in anticipation of this regression.
3 MORE TIPS IN THE COMMENTS!
The 4 month sleep regression 😱
During this #regression baby’s sleep is becoming more adult-like. Prior to this regression, when your baby would fall asleep, they would immediately enter into a deeper non-REM sleep. This is why you would have been able to rock your baby to sleep and put them down w/o them waking up. As well, they were likely able to sleep just about anywhere. Around this age, as sleep becomes more adult-like, your baby will not enter immediately into that non-REM deep sleep stage. Instead, they will first enter into a lighter sleep stage of non-REM. If we are rocking baby to sleep, and then try to put him down....POP! He is up and ready to go. Then the process of helping him to fall asleep is repeated again and again, only causing baby to become #overtired
As well, at this age babies now have distinct #sleepcycles through the night. While previously your baby would only wake up if a) he was hungry, b) he had a dirty diaper, or c) he no longer needed sleep, now baby will go through different stages of sleep.
Each sleep cycle lasts about 60–90 mins and is marked by a brief waking that happens at the end of the cycle. This brief waking is the cause of most sleep problems. This brief waking is normal and protective – we all do it! As adults, we wake up, check our surroundings, and go back to sleep, having no recollection of this in the morning. If our surroundings were to have changed, we would naturally wake, thus why a baby will wake if their environment has changed [i.e. going from falling asleep in your arms to waking up in a crib] and need your help to re-create the same environment they fell asleep in.
If you didn’t know that this sleep “regression” is coming, then you’ll probably assume baby is waking out of hunger, maybe it’s a #growthspurt or #teething but then things won’t get better. At this point we have reinforced that feeding is the way to get back to sleep, baby will have started to take in more calories during the night, and we create a ‘reverse cycle’. This means that a) your baby is waking due to the sleep association, but b) he is also now genuinely hungry at night.
How does your baby self-soothe? 💤
There are an endless amount of ways that a baby can #selfsoothe. Parents are often worried that their babies won't be able to self-soothe if they can't use a lovey, suck their fingers, roll over, etc. - but self-soothing doesn't always look like you might expect!
Here are some examples of ways a baby can self-soothe:
🚼Thumping their legs on the mattress
🚼Scratching the mattress
🚼Rubbing their head/face into the mattress
🚼Using a lovey
🚼Sucking on their tongue [my 3rd baby does this, pretty funny!]
🚼Playing with their hair
This is only a small list! Does your baby do something else to self-soothe? Let me know below! 👇
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☝️to 👌Nap Transition part 2✌️
The way we approach this transition depends on the reason we are dropping the nap. If we are dropping the nap because your child has refused the nap for weeks on end, then we can start at Step 3 below. If we are dropping the nap because your child is taking a long time to fall asleep at bedtime, waking at night/early in the morning, or not getting enough nighttime sleep, then we can start at Step 2. If you are dropping your child’s nap for schedule purposes then we would start at Step 1.
STEP 1️⃣ Alternate nap days
If you know you’re going to need to drop your child’s nap to start school, planning a bit ahead can be beneficial. Starting a month before school begins, alternate nap days with non-nap days. On nap days, keep the nap the same [timing, duration, etc.] and on the non-nap days, we’ll instill a ‘Quiet Time’ instead. On these non-nap days, try to keep the afternoons relatively calm and activity-free when possible, especially at the beginning of this transition. Once you’ve alternated nap days with non-nap days for about 2 weeks, move on to Step 2.
STEP 2️⃣ Cap the nap
This is the next stage in dropping the nap for schedule purposes or the 1st step if you believe your nap is causing sleep issues. On the days your child has a nap, cut it back by 15 mins every 3rd nap day until the nap is only 1 hr. You are helping your child slowly adjust to less sleep during the day and more at night. Each time you cut 15 mins from the nap, also move bedtime 15 mins earlier.
STEP 3️⃣ Bye-bye nap
Now we lose the nap entirely. Instead of a nap, we’ll be instilling a Quiet Time every day until your child starts FT school. The BIG key is an earlier bedtime. Your child has now lost 1 hr of daytime sleep, so we need to give them the opportunity to make up for that w/ an extra hr of sleep at night, meaning bedtime needs to be pulled a full hr earlier.
It may take your child a few weeks to adjust to no longer napping, and even for a child that was ready to drop the nap, this is a huge change!
☝️to 👌Nap Transition part 1:
The very last #naptransition tends to happen organically, similar to the 4-3 nap transition. You might be in one of two camps – you might grieve the end of naps, as your one sliver of alone time through the day slips through your fingers, or you might celebrate the extra freedom that comes from not needing to be home mid-day for a nap. Either way, this transition means your child is growing up!
The 1-0 transition typically occurs between 3-5 years of age, with 40% of children giving up naps between 4-5 years of age, and only 25% of kids still napping at age 5. This transition might occur on its own or you may need to drop your child’s nap in preparation for full-day school.
it’s definitely ideal to try to hold onto that last nap for as long as we can [without it negatively impacting their nighttime sleep, as nighttime sleep is far superior to daytime sleep]. Studies show that daytime naps reduce the risk of mood-related issues later in life. The amount of cognitive development that happens while babies and toddlers nap is quite amazing.
One mistake that parents often make is misinterpreting a ‘nap strike’ as the end of naps. A 2 year nap strike is very common [usually occurring between 20 and 28 months of age] but this is only temporary! If you keep consistent with laying your child down for a nap every single afternoon, there is a very high chance that the nap will come back. It can take a few weeks but hang in there!
If you suspect your child still needs a nap, the first thing we can do is look at the schedule. If your child is sleeping in too late in the morning, it may mean that sufficient sleep pressure isn’t built up before the nap. Try waking your child no later than 7am to see if that helps bring back the nap. If your child is already waking prior to 7am but is still not napping, look at the timing of the nap. Try laying your child down at 115pm to see if that helps. I do not recommend laying your child down for a nap any later than 115pm as you can miss the ‘sleep wave’ that often occurs in the afternoon between 12:30-1:30pm.
Stay tuned for part 2 of my series on the 1-0!