Mom didn't want to make the same sleep mistakes with her second child:
Four month old, very quick progress:
Nine month old's schedule was not meeting his needs:
Ten month old up all night long:
4.5 month old second child who did not nap and could not self-soothe:
Family felt like they had tried it all:
2-1 NAP TRANSITION!
While 11-13 mos is quite young to drop the 2nd nap, sometimes this transition is a bit out of our control [i.e. if your child is starting daycare and they are not open to offering a 2nd nap].
The 2-1 should be a very gradual transition regardless, but especially if we are tackling it before a child is showing clear signs of readiness, we want to take it even slower. If you are dropping the 2nd nap in this age range, your transition should take a month from start to finish. This means if your child is starting daycare at 12 months, start the transition at the 11 month mark.
𝐈𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐥𝐨𝐨𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐚 𝐬𝐮𝐩𝐞𝐫 𝐝𝐞𝐭𝐚𝐢𝐥𝐞𝐝 𝐝𝐚𝐲-𝐛𝐲-𝐝𝐚𝐲 𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐩𝐥𝐚𝐧, 𝐩𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐞 𝐜𝐡𝐞𝐜𝐤 𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐦𝐲 𝐂𝐨𝐦𝐩𝐫𝐞𝐡𝐞𝐧𝐬𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐍𝐚𝐩 𝐓𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐆𝐮𝐢𝐝𝐞 [𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐤 𝐢𝐧 𝐛𝐢𝐨]. 𝐈𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐜𝐫𝐚𝐳𝐲 𝐝𝐞𝐭𝐚𝐢𝐥𝐞𝐝!
Here is a quick re-cap of how this transition should look:
Just starting 1 nap: Nap 1 waketime starts at 3.5 hrs and is stretched by 15 mins every 3 days until you get to a 4.25 waketime. If that first nap ends before 12pm, do a 30-45m catnap/quiet time around 3pm or about 3.75 hrs after the nap ends, whichever comes first. If nap 1 ends later than noon, we're doing a 6hr waketime before bed. We should not lay down any earlier than 945am for 1st nap and every 3 days we push this 'no put down before' rule by 15 mins.
1.5 weeks on 1 nap: Nap 1 stretches from 4.25 hrs to 5 hrs [by 15m every 3 days]. Each time you increase the nap waketime, decrease bedtime by 15m [so you'll end up at 5/5.25]. By the end of this phase, you should not be laying down for the nap any earlier than 11am.
2.5 wks on 1 nap: now we stretch from 5 hrs before nap to 5.5 hrs before nap, but we stretch by 15m every 7 days instead. Each time you stretch nap, we decrease bedtime by 15m. Still pushing our 'no nap before' rule by 15m every 3 days, so by the end we are not laying down any earlier than 1215pm for the nap.
4 wks on 1 nap: 5.5 hours before nap [no put down before 1215pm], 4.75-5 hours before bedtime [ideal bedtime is 7-8pm]. Nap should not be longer than 3 hrs/past 3-315pm
Every time I post an image of baby W's sleep tracker, I have a ton of questions about what app I use!
I use a web-based site called Trixie Tracker and it is my FAVORITE! Very user-friendly and is perfect for parents who love to analyze their baby's sleep [I know, weird that I'd like it].
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11-13 month old sleep! Let's chat!
At this age our main goal is to maintain that 2 nap schedule for as long as we can. Why? Because the awake time needed to sustain 1 nap is almost twice as long as on 2 naps, and young babies would have a pretty challenging time handling that. There are often adjustments we can make to the sleep schedule to hold off the 2-1 for longer, such as:
-Extending the waketime in between naps up to 4hrs
-Making sure nap 1 ends no later than 11am
-Capping the first nap to 1 hour
At this age we are shooting for 13.5-14 hours of total sleep [low end 13, high end 14.5] with 2-3 of those hours coming from naps, 10-12 of those hours coming at night.
If your baby isn't already sleeping through the whole night, now is a really good time to focus on that since you NEED that full night of consolidated sleep when you go through the 2-1 transition!
At this age, the PM nap becomes less restorative as well [it doesn't necessarily shorten, it is just less restorative than before. You may notice baby is starting to wake crying from this 2nd nap] so you may need to shorten the waketime before bed to compensate. If you are finding your baby is starting to fight bedtime, have nightwakings, sleep-cries, or early wake-ups where he is crying, try putting down 15 minutes earlier for bed to see if it helps.
At the 12+ month mark, baby should now be moving to getting his primary source of nutrition from food, and milk intake decreases [and is more just complementary to solid meals]. After 12 months, 8 ounces [2 cups of milk] per day and 2-3 servings of dairy on top of that will help him meet his quota. Now is a good time to think about switching from bottles to cups [offering milk just with meals now] and even if you are continuing to nurse, practicing with a sippy cup [with dinner would be the best time!] is a good idea!
Sample Day at 11-13 months:
630am - awake
7am - breakfast w/ 3oz milk
9am - snack w/ water
930am - down for nap
945am-11am - 1st nap
12pm - lunch w/ 3 oz milk
2pm - snack w/ water
245pm - down for nap
3pm-4pm - 2nd nap
545pm - dinner w/ 2 oz milk
715pm - down for bed
730pm - asleep
10 mo old sleep schedule!
At 10 mos we are now on an established 2 nap schedule, and hopefully staying here for at least 3 mos and up to 8 mos. We try to get as close to 18 mos as we possibly can on 2 naps!
We are shooting for 14 hrs of total sleep [11-12 at night, 2-3 hrs during the day]. Low end of sleep needs could be 13.5 hrs, high end could be 14.5 hrs.
To avoid an early bedtime/early wake-up cycle, the 1st nap ideally is not starting until 9:30am and the 2nd nap should not start until 2:15pm. Our bedtime goal is 7-8pm at this age, since baby should be sleeping a full night of consolidated sleep, meaning early bedtimes are only ideal after a poor day of sleep [i.e. less than 2 hours in naps].
Babies can often handle up to 4 hrs of waketime at this age, but that doesn't mean we need to hit that max. A good starting point at this age would be 3/3.5/3.5 [laying down 15m prior] but we can go as high as 3.25/4/4 as needed.
Nap 1 should end no later than 11-1130am so that our 2nd nap doesn't start later than 3pm [many babies struggle to fall asleep for that 2nd nap when put down is past 245pm].
Solids should be well-established, last milk feed should occur at/around dinnertime, and we are beginning to transition to baby getting his primary source of nutrition from food!
6:45am - awake, milk feed
8:00am - breakfast [all food groups! EX: eggs scrambled with heavy cream and spinach [protein, veg, fat], toast w/ butter [carb, fat], banana [fruit]
9:45am-11:15am - nap #1, milk feed
12:30pm - lunch [EX: whole grain pasta w/ chicken, broccoli + shredded cheese [protein, carb, fat, veg], side of quartered grapes [fruit]
2:00pm - optional snack [2-3 food groups here, EX: crackers w/ kiwi + yogurt]
2:45pm-4:00pm - nap #2, milk feed
4:30pm - if no snack before, optional snack here
5:45pm - dinner [EX: salmon w/ sweet potatoes [protein, fat, carb, veg] + cottage cheese w/ blueberries [fruit, protein]. Cup of milk with dinner [great time to practice with a sippy cup!] or nursing immediately before/after dinner
7:30pm - asleep for the night
Now that we're talking 10-month old's, it's only appropriate that we'd discuss nightweaning, since we're now at the age where we can say with certainty [as long as baby is healthy] that baby can sleep through the whole night!
So what steps can we take to nightwean?
STEP 1: Make sure baby's daytime schedule is age-appropriate [sufficient daytime sleep, proper waketimes, proper bedtime, naps don't exceed 3 hours/day].
STEP 2: Remove all sleep associations, baby should be falling asleep 100% independently with no props. Milk feed should be removed entirely from the bedtime routine, last milk should be offered with dinner [cup/bottle] or immediately before/after dinner [nursing].
STEP 3: Look at daytime consumption - baby eating 3 meals/day including all food groups [fruit/veg, carbs, protein, fat]? Baby isn't distracted during milk feeds [keep baby in a dark room, white noise on, no stimulation!] 4 daytime feeds, totaling 16-20 oz.
STEP 4: Wait it out when baby wakes. If you haven't been waiting, start waiting 10 minutes. Then increase to 15 minutes. Then increase to 20 minutes. This is a good lesson in delayed gratification!
STEP 5: Reduce minutes/ounces during the nightfeed. If you are nursing, time the nighttime feeds for 2 nights and take the average. On the 3rd night, reduce the minutes you are nursing by 3 minutes. Every 3rd night, reduce the feed by another 3 minutes until you are only nursing for around 5 minutes. If you are bottlefeeding, you will want to reduce the number of ounces in the bottle(s) by half an ounce every 3rd night until you are only offering 2 ounces.
STEP 6: Now we eliminate the feed entirely - you have set the stage! Use your chosen sleep training method and when baby wakes at night and is still awake after your 20 mins, encourage him to fall back asleep on his own [perhaps by using timed checks, sitting next to the crib, or leaving him to settle on his own]. If you’ve followed all of the above steps, it should not take more than 3-5 nights until baby is sleeping through that waking. #nightweaning #sleeptraining #bottlefeed #breastfedbaby #babyadvice #mombloggersofig #sleepingthroughthenight
Early wake-ups PART 2 [see yesterday for PART 1!]
If baby wakes crying/fussing:
1) Is your child clocking insufficient daytime sleep?
4mo: less than 3.5 hrs
5mo: less than 3 hrs
6/7mo: less than 2.5 hrs
8mo to 1 nap: less than 2 hrs
1 nap to 2 yo: less than 1.5 hrs
2) Is your child awake too long before bed [as in, between last nap and asleep time for bed]?
4mo: more than 2.25 hrs
5/6mo: more than 2.5 hrs
7mo: more than 2.75 hrs
8mo: more than 3.5 hrs
9mo: more than 3.75 hrs
10mo: more than 4 hrs
*please note that these are the max. awake times. If your baby is waking crying in the morning, this could mean the awake time before bed is still too long even if you're less than these above maxes, so it might be wise to try and scale it back by 15 minutes every few nights to see how that affects morning wake-up time*
3) Is your baby teething? Teething [especially the 'big ones' - top middles, canines, and molars] can cause a temporary early wake-up
4) Is your baby hungry? Many babies still have a nightfeed up to the end of the 9th month!
5) Is your baby's last nap too late in the evening? If your baby is on a 3/4 nap schedule, last nap should end no later than 5pm. If your baby is on a 2 nap schedule, 2nd nap should end no later than 4pm.
6) Is your baby falling asleep 100% independently with zero props? Sleep is at its lightest between 4-6am, meaning it will be an especially hard time to stay asleep for non-independent sleepers.
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Let's talk early wake-ups!
I would define an early wake-up as anything before 6:00am or less than 10-11 hours of nighttime sleep [depending on the child]. Troubleshooting and fixing an early wake-up can be a real challenge.
Does your baby wake up happy or crying when they wake early? As in the moment they wake up, are they awake and instantly happy/quiet or fussy/crying? Today we will talk about what it could mean if your baby is waking HAPPY but too EARLY! Tomorrow we'll cover what it could mean if baby is CRYING when they wake.
1) Is your baby clocking too much daytime sleep?
4mo: more than 4.5 hrs
5mo: more than 4 hrs
6mo: more than 3.5 hrs
7/8mo: more than 3.25 hrs
9+ mos: more than 3 hrs
2) Did your build up enough sleep pressure before bed?
4mo: awake at least 1.75 hrs
5mo: awake at least 2 hrs
6/7mo: awake at least 2.25 hrs
8mo: awake at least 3 hrs
9mo to 1 nap: awake at least 3.5 hrs
3) Is your baby hungry? Many babies keep a nightfeed until the end of the 9th month, and most babies will not wake up crying when they are hungry between 4-6am since they are feeling rested from an almost full night of sleep. Waking up happy/quiet is not necessarily a sign that your baby is not hungry.
4) Are you stuck in a cycle of early bedtimes? An early bedtime when it's needed [i.e. after an odd bad day of sleep] is okay. A string of super early bedtimes or early bedtimes after a good day of sleep are not ideal. We can't expect baby to clock more than 11 hours of sleep after a good day of naps, so you may want to consider either a schedule shift [see my blog for this!] or sneaking in a 'rescue nap' [anything goes for a rescue nap - car/stroller/carrier/held/fed to sleep] to push bedtime later.
5) Are you making sure to leave baby until 6:00am? By scooping baby out prior to, we are re-setting their internal clock, and the early wakings will persist.
6) Is your baby's bedroom too bright? Zero sunlight in that room! And expose baby to evening sun to help set that clock!
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